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I Am Doing Something Abominable And I Know But I Need Help


I am like I said doing something abominable and I know. But I cant help myself. I am an existing member of this very popular "website" but I cant post this using my original ID for fear of the stigma cos some of friends in school knows me online.

I am 23yrs old and I am sleeping with my two elder sisters husbands. I am the last girl in a family of 4, 3 girls & a boy. The boy is the oldest. The most painful part is that I am in love one, who happens to be my immediate elder sister's husband. my immediate elder sister is 4yrs older than me. I have always had a crush on her husband right from when they were dating but I never thought it will get to the stage of me sleeping with him. Their marriage is 2yrs although they have no children yet. I am in LASU and their house is close to my school so I moved in with them after their wedding. Our illicit affair didnt start until april last year. My sister works on the Island and leaves for work very early in the morning while the husband is a business man in Alaba market. So I am left with making his food in the mornings before he goes to work. The first time was a mistake but it has never stopped after that mistake. It is actually a daily routine except on weekends that my sister doesnt work. I have cried several times because of what I am doing to her because she doesnt deserve it. She is a wonderful person...

On the part of my eldest sister, her husband is very wealthy and so he buys me things I can only dream of whenever he travels. He calls me baby of the house. They have 3 kids. His own is that he seduced me with a drink on my 20th birthday. I lived with them from when I was 17. We still do once in a while but its usually against my will cos he buys me stuffs even as I am in my immediate elder sister's house. I think I am finished if this thing gets out. I want to stop but I am already in love with my immediate elder sister's husband. He is so caring and so romantic. Someone please slap me out of this.

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Comment by AYANDELE BUSAYO on January 23, 2011 at 10:05am
I dont know what to tell you, if you can't control urself, then ur future is not in ur hands... No amount of doses of advise can help u becos of the nature of ur ailment;OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE DISORDER (OCD). The only person that can help u is Y.O.U 4get the past and say no 2 ur greed, that's all babe...
Comment by obi steven on January 23, 2011 at 10:04am

 well u have already made the mistake , i will advise u to leave ur sisters house and go

where both of them can never see u again , in that way u will erase all feelings about them

secondly stop collecting any gift frm ur sisters' husbands .

Comment by Ukachukwu Jasper Chinonso on January 22, 2011 at 11:28pm
been open and looking for solution is d first bold step to ur problem, but u also need to understand dat u cant stop it because of ur perception about life and how to live it, Pls change ur thinking process n undastand dat life is more than immediate and personal gratification (like what they buy for you, infatuation n sex) but real love, love that respects boundaries and do not want 2 hurt others, pls stop hurting ur sisters, u can easily confide this 2 ur pastor and he will walk u out of it.
Comment by Sharemi Olumide on January 22, 2011 at 9:56pm

I tot I just warned u guyz to place ur feet in ya mouth and suck on 'em.

Pple who are judgemental piss me off..

Comment by Amomoh Chris on January 22, 2011 at 9:42pm

Can u imagine dis shameless Ashawo saying she already in love wth her sis husband,

she is not ready to repent, pls jst go as a second wife bitch.

Comment by Sharemi Olumide on January 22, 2011 at 9:28pm

How does bn stupid apply here? hw does mugu or selfish apply too?

Self righteousness don spoil pple finish- they're all so quick to be jugdemental... na una holy pass abi?

Truth is.. most men in here wld trade there d**ks for sex b4 evn thinking bout wat there gonna use for the act and most ladies would roll over and play dumb b4 I dole out a million bucks.

Make una face front joo!

Comment by IBUNUN TAIWO VERONICA on January 22, 2011 at 7:33pm
i think the girl is very stupid and selfish while the cheating husband should be flogged and purnished by God himself, the girl is very cruel
Comment by dotless on January 22, 2011 at 4:33pm
i think the cheating husbands should be blamed for dis....
Comment by Holawalay Dedon on January 22, 2011 at 2:21pm

lol... i no say guyz go degenerate into this level of telling the gurl to call them...lol..funnny.

funny enough i know this gurl..

she may not know but i do

Comment by Beecorf on January 22, 2011 at 2:00pm
Labiqah Batna and Yusuf Taiye for una mind na una sharp pass abi? Asking the girl to give u guys a call for further advice. Are you guys really planning to advise her or to COLLECT your own?



Corruption is not stealing it is Covetousness At its Fullest... Corruption is not stealing it is Covetousness At its Fullest Potential.
Taking What Belongs To other People

adjective: covetous

having or showing a great desire to possess something, typically something belonging to someone else


... It was a pool party.

And they were there.

Men who have...
... It was a pool party.

And they were there.

Men who have achieved.

Money, power and fame.

Men in their prime who tell time to hold still since they have refused to age and it grudgingly obeys in detente and in temporaneous.

They dress young, they dance young, they act young.

They are current on all fronts.

Most of them married with children but mentally and emotionally single.

At this party they threw in a high brow residence in an exclusive neighbourhood in Ikoyi there was an abundance of food, drinks, drugs and real youth.

The youth came exclusively from the girls that were in attendance.

Girls in their late teens and early twenties.

Well spoken and extensively travelled.

Daughters of the materially blessed.

All of them students.

All of them naked.

Some where in the swimming pool, some at the bar, some danced under the cabana, others were hobnobing with the swimming trunks clad men at various places in the specially lit pool area that stood under the starry night sky.

And I sat with one of them.

She was caramel smooth, finely contoured, delicately featured and doe like.

She was twenty going on twenty one.

And a sophomore at Babcock university.

To every question I asked, she took a drag from the reefer in her hand, blow out the smoke through her mouth and nostrils, took a sip from her glass of Hennessey and coke on ice before she responded.

Her voice was sweet.

And her smile was rapturous.

"I heard students need permission to leave your school. How could you get out this late and stay overnight?"

"We have our ways."


"Yeah all of us."

"From Babcock?"

"Not all. Some from Covenant, Redeemers, Madonna, ABUAD, Pan African and stuff."

"No unilag or UI?"

"They ain't boujee."


"Yeah. They are crass. Men like you guys don't want to roll with local cats like those right?"

I looked at her silently as she took a drag from her reef.

The aroma assailed it. It was caustic yet not aggravating.

"What's that?"


"What's that?"

She laughed.

"It's good stuff. Hits you slowly and then makes you soar like superman."

I looked around and saw the girls doing one thing or another in their nudity.

She was staring at me.

"Is this your first party?"

I nodded.

"No wonder you are asking all these hang questions."

"Why do you do this?"

"I'm young. I need to live life before it becomes to serious and I have to be all grown up."

"But why the drugs?"


"Because what?"

"Because this is how we roll. Everyone has their poison. If you not on reef, you do codeine or cocaine or heroin or speed or AZT or ecstasy or royfenol or fentanyl or meth or oxy or worst case you inhale glue and get your high."

I stared at her as she inhaled and exhaled languidly.

"Why the parties?"

"You get your hit for free here. You have fun. You make good money."

"But for you to attend those schools you must be rich."

"My parents are not me."

"But they give you money."

"They pay the tuition and all. Not like they can give me a million in cash."

"Do you get a million here?"

"Well two or three parties can make me that."

"Aren't you afraid of running into your Dad at places like this?"

"Naaaa... my dad is too square and busy but even if he is not then it is his problem after all he came here for what I came here for so he can't tell me nothing."

I fell silent and watched her inhale and exhale smoke.

"But you know, your folks put you in schools like that to protect you?"

"Too protect me?"


"They are too busy to even bother."

"No they are not."

"Yes they are. They think the school will be both my teachers and my parents."

"I think they are just worried about you getting corrupted."

"I was balling like this under their nose and they didn't even notice. Funny thing is that even the innocent Jane get influenced in school, so what was the use of all the headache of keeping us locked up in all these secondary schools that front as universities."

"They did it out of love and with the belief that those schools are way better than the public ones."

"Well they fucked up."

"Fucked up?"

"Is this an interview or what?"

"No I am just intrigued."

"And I am horny."

I fell silent.

She dragged, exhaled, took a drink from her glass, sucked on one of the ice cubes in her mouth and asked in a whisper.

"Are you going to do anything about it?"

~ Jude Idada


The best time to do core parenting is between ages 0-12. You simply cannot afford to be too busy at this stage. Schools, nannies, extra murals cannot replace core parenting at this point. If you are absent in your child's life at this stage, be sure someone else is shaping your child's worldview .

At 12 a child's curiosities are set. And they spend their teenage years exploring those curiosities and fantasies and experimenting with their identities.

If you attempt core parenting in teenage years, you will meet a brick wall and you might end up with a fractious relationship with your teen.

Your best mode as a parent of a teenager is to "befriend" them. At this stage you can't take anything for granted you will have to earn their trust. Seek to influence them not control at this point. They will resist control but will respond wonderfully to influence: yours or the streets.

-Excerpts from RAISING A2040Teenager by Johnson Abbaly.

#Agenda2040. #RealTalk. #21stCenturyParent[truncated by WhatsApp]

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